{"id":344,"date":"2021-01-27T04:12:54","date_gmt":"2021-01-27T04:12:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/minimoog.net\/daphne\/?p=344"},"modified":"2023-06-27T02:41:48","modified_gmt":"2023-06-27T02:41:48","slug":"how-freewriting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/minimoog.net\/daphne\/how-freewriting\/","title":{"rendered":"How? (Freewriting)"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">How does one tell their boss &#8220;Your management style isn&#8217;t good for my mental health&#8221;?  That&#8217;s not something people are used to articulating.  But yet that&#8217;s what I find myself wanting to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Granted, my mental health hasn&#8217;t been ideal for awhile.  I was doing a good job functioning reasonably well.  Then there was that whole being triggered by an acquaintance&#8217;s suicide thing in September.  Add to that the realization that my boss has done a lot of things that I know really aren&#8217;t ok because Kevin used to do very similar things to me right alongside the holidays.  Not good.  Thanks largely to my meds and my loves, I&#8217;ve managed to keep some of my marbles.  I also forced myself to take time off work (yay FMLA) so I can start to get my head straight.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It wasn&#8217;t until I didn&#8217;t have to think about work did I realize just how lost I was.  Can&#8217;t help but take it personally when someone tries to excuse their poor behavior on work stress.  It&#8217;d be easier to be told that a person is struggling a little and is aware their behavior might not be completely on par and asks for patience.  Exact same situation, different attitude.  You&#8217;ve got it rough?  I feel for ya.  You&#8217;re gonna use that as justification to treat me poorly and tell me not to take it personally?  I&#8217;d prefer not to continue to be in that kind of a situation.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I know what I&#8217;m capable of, and all I want to do is grow, not fall back into accepting less that I deserve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How does one tell their boss &#8220;Your management style isn&#8217;t good for my mental health&#8221;? That&#8217;s not something people are used to articulating. But yet that&#8217;s what I find myself wanting to do. Granted, my mental health hasn&#8217;t been ideal for awhile. I was doing a good job functioning reasonably well. Then there was that&hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/minimoog.net\/daphne\/how-freewriting\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">How? 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