{"id":278,"date":"2020-06-02T18:30:48","date_gmt":"2020-06-02T18:30:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/minimoog.net\/daphne\/?p=278"},"modified":"2023-06-27T02:52:45","modified_gmt":"2023-06-27T02:52:45","slug":"surviving-amor-fou-2-music","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/minimoog.net\/daphne\/surviving-amor-fou-2-music\/","title":{"rendered":"Surviving Amor Fou, #2: Music"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

I’m sitting here listening to The Beatles album Let It Be.<\/em> Much like Pink Floyd’s Dark Side of The Moon<\/em>, The Beach Boys’ Pet Sounds<\/em>, and Suzanne Vega’s 9 Objects of Desire<\/em>, this album reminds me so much of Kevin that I’ve actively refrained from listening to it until now. I don’t know what changed my mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In this case, we listened to this on the way down for me to meet his father and his stepmother (technically–the marriage happened when Kevin was in his 30’s), a month after I moved in with Kevin. We had little jokes that involved this album. You know, those jokes you develop over time with someone you’re close to. That stuff you can never quite convey properly to the rest of humanity. The little things that start to become painful once that person dies. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This album reminds me of so many good memories, which are a bit on the bittersweet side right now. It’s hard to think of what we used to have because it’s gone. I picture so many things in my mind’s eye while listening to this album. The apartment where we lived, his ’67 Mustang Fastback, the cats. . . So much laughter, so many very early Internet videos, hanging out with friends. . . I was so young back then. I had no idea how long I’d have with Kevin. I knew back then we’d lose all the cats, but I thought we’d start a new group of them in my 40’s. I could never have guessed that he would be dead six months after losing the last one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That life has been over for 6 years. The good life was pretty much done six years before that. Yet listening to this album still evokes memories of that time. I’m quite happy that it’s not emotionally painful. It’s still great music and I may try to slowly put some of these songs into playlists. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The one song that I have been able to listen to is For You Blue<\/em>. It reminds me of my Sweetie. But we don’t have Amour Fou, thankfully.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I’m sitting here listening to The Beatles album Let It Be. Much like Pink Floyd’s Dark Side of The Moon, The Beach Boys’ Pet Sounds, and Suzanne Vega’s 9 Objects of Desire, this album reminds me so much of Kevin that I’ve actively refrained from listening to it until now. 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